What is Cars & Crystals?

Navigating motherhood is WILD!

It changes your entire life in a moment, and yet life doesn’t stop or slow down for you to adjust. As women, we are handed the most important role in life, however, most of us don’t have a large tribe or support system. And when they say, “it takes a village,” I personally feel like that village was meant more to help mom on her journey from woman to mother.

Regardless of what you may think, if you are a mother, you instinctively know what is best for your child. Yes, others can help guide you on how to change a diaper (never changed one till I had my son at 35 years old!) or how to properly latch for breastfeeding, or what sleep schedule to follow… but when do we receive guidance on how we as women will never be the same? That when you gave birth to your child, you also birthed a new version of yourself? When are we empowered to step into this next chapter of womanhood, to this new, raw version of ourselves with a heart that now beats outside of our chest?

I’ve been dreaming about starting a blog (because I love to write, it’s so incredibly therapeutic for me) to share my perspective on motherhood – and all the magic that surrounds it. Because it truly is magical. But it’s also crazy, exhausting, tiring and by far the most physically, emotionally and mentally taxing job I have ever had. And I have been working since I am 15 and was a proud career woman until I had my son at 35. This sh*t is hard.

So here I am, typing away while the bedroom camera shows my 3.5 year old toddler spitting in his hands and smearing it down his slide off the side of his bed instead of taking a nap.

I’m here to share it all, and I’m aware not everyone will agree or like what I have to say – but that’s the other thing they don’t tell you about motherhood… you learn not to care what others think of you.

I want to discuss things that aren’t spoken about. I love how I was raised, and I wouldn’t change a thing! But I was raised to be independent, to go to college and get a degree and have a successful career so you don’t have to depend on anyone for anything in life. I wasn’t raised to be a mother. I don’t think women have been raised to be mothers for generations. Most of us were raised to have careers and if and when we had a child, we either learn to balance work and motherhood, or become a full-time SAHM who loses her previous identity of a career woman and is now navigating this brand new world alone. There is no college or schooling for motherhood. Hell, they don’t even prepare you properly for birth, let alone ALL that comes after.

Times have changed and so have my views on SAHM.

When I began manifesting this blog, every evening I would crawl into bed I would always find two of his favorite things that he had left behind while playing or snuggling – cars and crystals. Such a beautiful combination of his father and I, reflected through our son.

My son… you are everything I knew you would be and more. My only hope is that I continue to
grow into the best version of my new self, for you.