Being a GIRL BOSS is a state of mind

I feel like I have been using the phrase “Girl Boss” for at least 15 years. I have always seen the phrase marketed to career women. Entrepreneurs. Women that took over men’s roles in the workplace. I never ever remember seeing the phrase having anything to do with being a SAHM. (Have you?)

I really prided myself on being one! A successful career woman who didn’t NEED a man to pay my rent, fly me to Europe, buy me a brand-new car or an LV bag. A “Girl Boss” that started her own small business in the wee morning hours after working late nights at law firms. I did that all for myself and honestly, I remember the pure euphoria from being able to achieve it all! I definitely relished those moments. 

Then I met the love of my life, got married, finances merged and after we had our son I officially stopped working. I’ve lost count how many times I have said it, but I would not change one thing about being a SAHM. I am eternally #soulgrateful to be able to! I know it’s a privilege and honestly it’s the greatest gift my husband has ever given me. Time is precious, and for some reason it seems to fly when your children are growing. It’s my honor to raise our son. It’s pure euphoria to wake up to his face every day and know we get to spend our days together. I’ve told my son since he’s a baby how blessed we are to be able to do this, and we are only able to do so because of my husband. 

But my gosh have I also lost count for the amount of times I have said that I don’t feel accomplished anymore and that’s all because I don’t see dollar signs added to the bank account from my name. I know my husband is going to read this and go off, because we are a team and he tells me all the time that he can’t do what he does without me doing what I do. And I get that! It’s taken me time to realize my contribution is 6-figures worthy. It’s taken me time to realize that I am still a GIRL BOSS. 

I’m more of one now than I EVER was in my 20s! I’m running multiple businesses, homeschooling a legit genius, and being a SAHM. I work when he sleeps, so that I can be present when we are together. Which is 99% of my day! LMAO

I also felt like a “Girl Boss” because I was always dressed up for work. Blazers, high heels, designer handbags. 

I felt empowered by my appearance. 

Most of the time I am now in active wear. I go through phases of how I feel about being in active wear so much, but considering how active I am (aiming to workout 5-6 days a week) and how active my son is – sometimes it just makes more sense to be in workout clothes. 

But any woman can attest to feeling sloppy or lazy when not doing our hair, makeup and wearing a cute outfit! 

It’s taken me time to realize that on some days I need to wear something else and do my makeup. If I got all dressed up to sit in an office with no windows, then I damn sure better get dressed up to be out and about at all the places my son and I frequent! 

The other day I was taking a Peloton class and my favorite instructor Alex Toussaint said something that shook me to my core. 

“Some of ya’ll need to RE-INTRODUCE yourself TO YOUR DAMN SELF!” 

Yep. Thank God I am clipped into the bike or I would have fallen off. That hit me in my face and boy did I need it!

I looked at my reflection and reminded myself I am still all the things I was before becoming a mother, EVEN MORE. 

I am a mofo GIRL BOSS. 

I am still a BADASS. 

I am still accomplished and successful (even if I am now juggling cooking, laundry, bills, cleaning and homeschooling vs. juggling trial prep exhibits and depositions.) 

Change your mindset and you can literally change your life.

Share with me! Are you a SAHM who was a previous career woman? Did you ever feel like you lost your identity? Do you FEEL like a GIRL BOSS?